Emotions store anger, sadness, joy, and fear. When emotions take us over then stress falls into place and it depends on how we handle it that determines if stress will take control. If we allow the emotions to run the table then we are heading for problems on top of the problems that we are already dealing with. Staying in control is the key to preparing and planning a steadfast stress management scheme. When emotions take over our thoughts then we are heading down a road that leads us to chaos. Learning stress management techniques that help us to deal with emotions is essential for coping with stress. When our emotions are triggered, our feelings are intense and a physiological change takes place preparing the body to respond accordingly to the stressor in question. The emotions intense feelings will act out of accordance to the thoughts if we allow them. For example, a person becomes angry when the emotions are threatened and if that person neglects to use their head, they may react or say something negatively and regret it later. In most cases when we act on emotions we often, make bad choices with succeeding consequences. Therefore, stress management is techniques that provide us knowledge to learn how to control the emotions and reduce stress. Looking at a couple of examples can help us to appreciate how thinking is important, rather than allowing emotions to control our life. When the emotions are intense we often suffer stress symptoms, including physical symptoms and mental. One example of emotional reaction is illustrated in the following scene. A man comes home from work and is irritable after dealing with a hard day at work. His wife has prepared a meal and the man ignores her offer to have dinner with her. She is feeling emotional, since she spent her time preparing the meal to please her husband. Instead of recognizing that her husband had a hard day, she approaches him and assertively tells him that she does not appreciate wasting her time on a man that does not appreciate her good deeds. Now he is emotional, since men feel threatened when a mate is upset with him. Instead of using his head, he shouts at her, calls her a selfish woman, and stomps out of the room, leaving her no space to retaliate. She is angrier at this point and follows the man to the other room screaming behind him. They argue for about 15 minutes and both storm out of the room. Now we have stress, since the couple is unhappy and emotions are soaring. Now if the woman would have recognized that her husband was frustrating she might have approached him differently. Now we can turn this around and use our head in the situation. When the husband arrives home from work, his wife recognizes he is frustrated, so instead of asking him to dine with her, she approaches her husband lovingly offering her support. He snaps at his wife and instead of the wife feeling threatened she caringly tells him that if he needs her she is there for him. She walks to the kitchen and in a few minutes, the husband comes in and apologizes for his rudeness. The wife says that is ok dear, we all have bad days. The husband sits at the table with his wife and both enjoy a well-cooked meal. Do you see the difference in the two case scenarios? The couple can now relax and enjoy an evening together and talk about the husbands frustration to help him relieve his stress. The stress was minimized and the couple acted on thought, with a bit of emotional reaction in the scene. What a lovely thought that we have the ability to minimize stress by utilizing our thoughts instead of the emotions. As you can see, stress is linked to emotions, since it stores anger, fear, joy and sadness. We can see in the second scene that the couple had worked out a stress management solution that benefits the family. Most likely, the couple is educated, intelligent, secured, and emotional stable.
